Weakness in a job - Don't let others see itWeakness in a job Never Let Them See You SweatIn life we are sometimes unaware of how others see us and though we try our best to present ourselves in a favorable light there is another type of communication we have. People are very observant and at times they pay more attention to our body language than what we verbalize. They also pay attention to how we treat ourselves…if we look or act carelessly, the observer feels as if they can join in. Example: If I arrive at work sloppily dressed and say terrible things about my performance (a classic example of reverse psychology that can backfire) I cannot be too surprised if others pile on. Traditionally, people want others to listen to the self denigrating comment and disagree with them..but what if they hear it and agree, doesn’t that make things even worse?Well, of course it does… I believe that we teach others how to treat us and we ought to be careful with our words and actions because we could be building a foundation for others to put their toxic mess on.Nowhere is it more evident than when we look at the characteristics of a good day versus a bad day. When I am having a good day, which is the overwhelming majority of the time, I have a tendency to stand a little taller, talk a little more confidently and generally avoid any negative behavior or conversation and as a result I seem to attract other happy and peaceful people. I find that the phone rings more and people are quicker to engage…and I never seem to ask myself “where is everybody when I need them the most”? The reverse of this is the bad day syndrome…wherein I mope around and feel as if everybody should understand how I am feeling and what I am thinking…or worse yet, I want the world to cut me some slack until I feel better. I want people to take it upon themselves to support me in whatever it is I need to get on track…the problem is…that is not how the world works…people are not mind readers…and human nature is such that they can’t always resist pushing and prodding someone when they are down. Whether it is to punish them for feeling sorry for themselves is not the point… I propose that we don’t give them a chance to see us sweat!We go on about our business and competently and strongly execute our duties without bringing a lot of emotions into our workday. If we have trouble at home or problems that make it difficult to focus perhaps we should remember how much worse things can get when others pile on! I know there are times we are a step slow and cannot keep up the pace of what is expected of us but we have to act as if we have been there before…or simply put..we have to act successful and strong to be treated as a strong and successful person. Weakness in a job written by Ken Bownes Weakness in a job SponsorsMost read articles - Weakness in a job Home |
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