Employment advice -Never take things personally at work.
Employment advice
Never take things personally at work.
Ever…it is a job…decisions are made for the greater good and sometimes decisions are made with the future in mind…stop fussing and fighting over fairness!
If your security is at stake of course you will be personally affected and you will have an emotional turmoil to contend with but to spend every day riding one wave after another and reading o much into what people do or don’t do is asking for stress.If someone is looking at you funny or their tone of voice not what you normally hear…let it go!
People spend more time on their feelings than their production and it is a serious problem.
How many sick days are spent on disgruntled employees licking their wounds?
How many employees are caught gossiping at the water cooler instead of doing the thing they are paid for…the very reason they are there?
I used to be quick tempered at work..if someone took credit for work I did or if someone did something seemingly passive and it made me look bad I would spend hours and sometimes days thinking about it.
I would also talk about it and try to get a “reality check”In turn, I would affect the productivity of the listener and then the company would have 2 (or more) employees at half strength.
It is a job!
People want to survive, take care of their families and enjoy their leisure time…it is competitive at times but ultimately it is not the snakepit of pain and punishment that people make their jobs out to be!
The time has come for us, as employees to take stock of what we can and cannot control.we need to increase our awareness of human behavior and broaden our perspectives on what really matters.
We can all start by being more focused on ourselves than the other person..we can stop coveting what he has and stop envying his accomplishments.
Most arguments at work seem to be steeped in fear..in my experience it is always some variation on fear of losing something or fear of not getting what we want.
Simple…isn’t it?
Well, unless you are the one suffering…
I made a pledge to myself a long time ago to separate the fact from perception whenever I am frustrated…I would make a pile of actual evidence that harm was done, another pile of stuff that I feared might happen and another pile of…undefined but troublesome nonetheless.
What I found was a disproportionate amount of time was wasted on no actual offense…no crime committed..no ego bruise…just a pile of speculative nonsense.
Armed with the facts I realized that work was a place to go and do my job…not a battleground where I would engage in emotional warfare…it made a huge difference and changed my life.
Now when I encounter coworkers or supervisors I am aligned with the goals of the company and I try my best to operate efficiently and mindfully instead of riding every wave of emotion I just keep my head down and work. Employment advice written by Ken Bownes
